Jul 26, 2009

Sex with Strangers

Hello everyone I have a story to tell you about Sex with Strangers. Now before you think this is a sex post let me tell you it’s not. It’s actually a post about a play I just saw today called Sex with Strangers. This is actually the first play I have ever seen it I must say it was AMAZING.

When I saw it with my friend Dan I decided that this is something that I must do more often especially living in Chicago. I will try to give you a bit of a background about the story’s plot:

Ethan Strange is a hot young scenester whose online journal of sexscapades have turned him into the "it" boy of the blogosphere. Olivia is an attractive 30-something whose own writing career has crapped out. After they hook up, sex turns into dating and dating into something more -- but their online exploits threaten to destroy their real-life connection.

I never realized how good plays are and being from Chicago and having the chance to experience all of this culture I feel bad that I have not taken advantage of it before, however after seeing this play I’m hoping to change that.

If you’re from Chicago or planning on visiting I would suggest checking out a play from Steppenwolf

Jul 13, 2009

Jealous of Nothing

Hello guys… I’m a bit confused about what happened at work a few weeks ago. As I was at my desk talking via IM with a co-worker, who is in the closet but all my other co-workers know he’s gay, made a mistake and sent me a message me meant to send to another friend. He stated that I’m jealous that he’s talking to a new guy in our office who happens to be attractive.

I thought about it for a while and when I asked him what he meant by this he apologized for being on immature in stating this. Now if you know this guy you would realize he’s the type of guy that has to be the “center of attention” in a group or he feels as though no one is paying attention to him. I told him that this is the exact reason why I don’t invite him out with my other friends because he to “high maintenance”

Ask anyone that knows me and they will let you know that I’m laid back and would talk to almost anyone (as long as they are not rude), but there are some things I can not deal with and a person who is self centered is one of them.

I’m sure I’m not the only one that knows people like this and I won’t be surprise if these people usually get cut out of your life because of their behavior.

What would you readers have done if you were in my situation?


I feel so bad today.... I just got into work this morning and as I walked in my manager speakes with me letting me know that the person I am talking about above has been let go from the company. I must admit this was a shock to me as I thought he was doing well. But I can't say I'm surprise he seemed to think he could do what ever he wanted without any regards to the company rules.

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Jan 19, 2009

Make A Great First Impression With Your Appearance

It's superficial, but it's a reality -- people look at you, and in an instant you are judged based on the way you look. You could be rich as hell, but if you're dressed like a bum, mustard stains and all, you will be perceived accordingly. That's why it is important to look your best whenever you go out or have company.

Here are some tips that will always keep you looking your best.

before you leave the house:
Take a shower every morning
There's just no excuse for missing a shower when you wake up, before you go out for the night or after a workout. Water, soap, towel. Simple.

Check your face
You don't necessarily have to shave, but at least ensure that your face is clean and free of "debris." A quick look in the mirror to check for nose hair, stuff in your beard or crust in your eyes doesn't take more than a few seconds, and is well worth the effort.

Groom your hair (ear, nose, chest, head, etc.)
Hair growth happens with regularity, so make trimming and upkeep part of your routine. Wash and condition your hair every day (or every other day, depending on your hair type and length). Set aside one day a week (preferably a Saturday or Sunday, when you have more time) to tend to ear, nose and chest hair.

Clean your hands
In the business world, handshakes can make or break you; in the dating world, a woman expects to see nice hands. So all you have to do is cut your nails regularly, scrape away the dirt with a "nail cleaner" or a nailbrush (which you can keep in the shower to save time), wash your hands frequently (to avoid sweaty, sticky hands), and use lotion on occasion (to keep them smooth).

Apply lip balm
There is nothing worse than looking at chapped lips, and trust me, no girl will want to kiss them. Find a good lip balm and use it regularly. Just don't put too much on, or it will end up looking like lip gloss. And if you don't like applying it in public because of the unmanly look it portrays, then do it in private when you go to the bathroom.

Dress with style and make sure you always look like a million bucks.

Dress well
You don't need a suit (unless the occasion calls for it), but you should always wear clean clothes that are wrinkle-free and smell good. In other words, wear clothes that were just in your drawer or closet, not your hamper.

On a related note, select clothes that fit. After you put on your clothes, take a look in the mirror for a few seconds to make sure they fit properly. Yes, their preferred fit will vary over time as styles change (along with your body and taste), but the key here is to pay attention to what you're putting on.

Use some sort of scent
Many guys go to town wearing some sort of fragrance, using everything from scented soap and deodorant to aftershave and cologne. Other guys prefer not to use anything. Like most things in life, the answer is moderation. Pick one scent (otherwise you'll combine fragrances, which will result in a weird smell) and go with it. Just make sure it isn't too strong and make sure not to bathe in it. One final note: Don't skimp on cost here; cheap cologne will act like repellant.

Shine your shoes
People tend to look at your shoes right away. If dress shoes are appropriate, make sure they're shined. If you're wearing casual shoes, make sure they look clean and new. Tattered shoes tell the world that you either don't have money or don't care -- neither option is attractive.

once you're out:
Have proper posture
Good posture is important for you and your appearance. Focus on sitting and standing up straight. If you need a little extra help, do some posture exercises to strengthen your core muscles.

Scan your attire
Throughout a long day at the office, your clothes are likely to shift and get stained. After lunch and maybe again before you leave the office, check yourself in the mirror or look down to see if any adjustments are in order. As a side note, an untied tie is not a good look -- either keep it on or take it off.

Check your smell
Sweat happens, but it's also the enemy. Take a whiff of yourself every few hours and keep some fragrance (cologne, deodorant or body spray) on hand to freshen up. Also, if you sweat a lot, consider wearing an undershirt to prevent getting sweat stains on your shirts. To make sure you smell good from head to toe, apply talc powder on your feet to stay dry, especially if you're not wearing socks with your shoes.

Perform a quick facial check after you eat
Take a few minutes and use the bathroom mirror after you eat. Scan your teeth, nose and facial hair for any evidence of your meal or beverage. Ideally, you'd also brush your teeth, but if that isn't an option, then use a toothpick, mouthwash, gum, or mints.

you'll be judged by your cover
If you look good, you feel good, and if you feel good, you give off those vibes that tell the world that you feel great. Make your impressions count by letting your appearance show off what you have going on inside. And make frequent use of those mirrors. You don't have to be a woman about it, but you should check them as often as you can.

Jan 15, 2009

Winter In Chicago

I don't know what I'm still doing here.  I left for work at 5:45am this morning and it was already -35 degrees outside.  Also how do people manage to go to the gym in this weather?  I mean I'll go in the morning if I did not have to shower and freeze as I'm leaving... But then you might say why I don't just go after work and the answer to that is because I just want to get home and out of the weather. 
Things have been so crazy lately for me, especially since the New Year.  I've made a promise to myself ,I don't make resolutions,  that I was not going to have sex with anyone unless I was in a serious relationship (luckily for me oral does not count as sex).  I've been good with it so far as it is 1/15/09 and I have not had sex yet.
What about others... what are promises you've made to yourself that you are really going to try and keep this year?